Wow, I know being a free spirit is good but has its challenges too. The person I cared so much about is out of my life now because of my defense mechanism. When life gives you lemons, you are to make lemonade.
The push and pull that you receive from someone that supposedly cares about you is tough. When is enough, enough? Why do people feel so insecure within themselves that they must push and pull you. When I am with someone I want them to be with me. Lately, I always get an excuse, "tired, not feeling well". I know I create a comfort for them but at the same time my needs are definitely not being met. Why continue the relationship? It's time to sever the ties. It is so apparent that he is no longer attracted to me.
So as much as I want to hold on it is not worth the time especially when my value of conversation and communication are not there. He doesn't share with me the way he used to and he is just going through the motions. He doesn't care, I've become his wife not his lover and not his friend. He has another lover that he is investing his time with and is more important to him it is clear.
A free spirited person acknowledges the time to break it apart and does no matter what happens, it's time to say good bye.
Saturday, July 14, 2012
Sunday, October 23, 2011
Sexuality and the Rubanesque woman
Society deems large women as fat, obese, heavy set, unhealthy, unsexy, hideous and just a plague on society. But in reality the curvaceous and buxom beauties have been the center of art and sculptures more so than thin women.
This is not against being thin, but it is about accepting your body and loving it for what it is beautiful. If you love yourself people will see that so much more than being a curvaceous woman. I say this from experience. I have been fortunate to have been heavy, thin and heavy again. Each time I never experienced a lack of male companionship. I have been heavy all my life and not from the reasons people believe others are heavy, eating too much, no exercise, lack of motivation. Hell, I am motivated and energetic and people have a hard time keeping up with me. But genetics plays a big role in my life.
I had the recent opportunity to talk to one of my best friends from high school, a guy. He said "You look so good." I said, thanks and said "Still a red head, a few more wrinkles and still chunky." He said, I don't remember you being chunky, I just remember how cute and how nice you were and how much fun we always had together. Wow, in the end see what people remember is how you make them feel.
You can't make others feel good about who they are if you aren't feeling good about yourself. You have to become selfish. Get a pair of sexy panties or bra, or sexy shoes. Show off your assets the ones that you have been given. Accentuate the positive and you will be amazed at what others will see.
To all the curvy women out there, embrace yourself and if you are not happy with the shell that you have, YOU have the power to CHANGE IT. Don't be a victim to what society says, stand for yourself and be proud of who you are.
This is not against being thin, but it is about accepting your body and loving it for what it is beautiful. If you love yourself people will see that so much more than being a curvaceous woman. I say this from experience. I have been fortunate to have been heavy, thin and heavy again. Each time I never experienced a lack of male companionship. I have been heavy all my life and not from the reasons people believe others are heavy, eating too much, no exercise, lack of motivation. Hell, I am motivated and energetic and people have a hard time keeping up with me. But genetics plays a big role in my life.
I had the recent opportunity to talk to one of my best friends from high school, a guy. He said "You look so good." I said, thanks and said "Still a red head, a few more wrinkles and still chunky." He said, I don't remember you being chunky, I just remember how cute and how nice you were and how much fun we always had together. Wow, in the end see what people remember is how you make them feel.
You can't make others feel good about who they are if you aren't feeling good about yourself. You have to become selfish. Get a pair of sexy panties or bra, or sexy shoes. Show off your assets the ones that you have been given. Accentuate the positive and you will be amazed at what others will see.
To all the curvy women out there, embrace yourself and if you are not happy with the shell that you have, YOU have the power to CHANGE IT. Don't be a victim to what society says, stand for yourself and be proud of who you are.
Saturday, August 20, 2011
Sexual freedom - at what price?
Many of us believe we have no inhibitions. We want to live our lives with freedom, but at what cost? What is the price that we pay for sexual freedom? This freedom resides not by our family, friends, neighbors, etc. It resides within us. Those individuals are influencers of who we are and what we should be according to their standards. Why? Why do we allow them to dictate what and who we want to be?
Naked Conversation - Definition
I get asked alot Julissa "What is a Naked Conversation?"
Here is my definition of the Naked Conversation which may differ slightly from Lorenzo.
Naked conversations are 100% Trust, 100% honesty, 100% sexual. They are conversations that are part of the intimate sexual experience. Discussions of anything mostly philiosophical conversations while touching each other and eye contact. It is a very intimate connection and conversation. Much more than just conversation and snuggling after sex. Naked conversations can start the sexual experience, be in the middle or at the end. They are the brain stimulation (largest sex organ) that intensifies the sexual experience. They are conversations that create a connection by creating an agreement about what is being discussed. The two individuals can come to an agreement about the conversation even if they are not on the same side, it is coming together creating the agreement that creates the sexy conversation.
Here is my definition of the Naked Conversation which may differ slightly from Lorenzo.
Naked conversations are 100% Trust, 100% honesty, 100% sexual. They are conversations that are part of the intimate sexual experience. Discussions of anything mostly philiosophical conversations while touching each other and eye contact. It is a very intimate connection and conversation. Much more than just conversation and snuggling after sex. Naked conversations can start the sexual experience, be in the middle or at the end. They are the brain stimulation (largest sex organ) that intensifies the sexual experience. They are conversations that create a connection by creating an agreement about what is being discussed. The two individuals can come to an agreement about the conversation even if they are not on the same side, it is coming together creating the agreement that creates the sexy conversation.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
In the beginning
Man and woman were created and evolved. They were designed to give each other pleasure, but how can one give the other pleasure without knowing how to please themselves?
Don't knock masturbation - it's sex with someone I love. ~Woody Allen
In order to fully enjoy the sexual experience, one must love yourself. Know your hot buttons, be willing to push them in bed with your partner. Knowing your body is key to a great sexual experience. The comfort level you have with your own body allows for the comfort of a naked conversation.
The first step is to get past your inhibition. Explore your body. God created it and it is yours. Know it and what makes it feel good. Had God not intended for us to have sex he would not have made us the way we are with the ability to procreate. We have sexual desires and feelings as part of the mating ritual. So why be ashamed? Explore what God has given to you.
Don't knock masturbation - it's sex with someone I love. ~Woody Allen
In order to fully enjoy the sexual experience, one must love yourself. Know your hot buttons, be willing to push them in bed with your partner. Knowing your body is key to a great sexual experience. The comfort level you have with your own body allows for the comfort of a naked conversation.
The first step is to get past your inhibition. Explore your body. God created it and it is yours. Know it and what makes it feel good. Had God not intended for us to have sex he would not have made us the way we are with the ability to procreate. We have sexual desires and feelings as part of the mating ritual. So why be ashamed? Explore what God has given to you.
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